To have growing and healthy relationships, the compassionate component in relationships cannot be overlooked nor denied. For a relationship to develop and sustain in a healthy manner, attention must be given to our capacity for compassion. All long lasting relationships will at some time or another come face to face with anger in conflict. I would even venture to say the anger in conflict is a normal part of a growing and healthy relationship. You may not be always able to choose whether you experience anger in your conflicts, but you can learn to choose what you do with it.
You can learn how to step back from your anger and take a compassionate approach to managing it. Compassion involves sensitivity to suffering, your own, and the sufferings of others. Compassion is motivated by the basic desire to care for the well being of ourselves and others we relate to.
Compassion is a strength that helps us find courage to move toward difficulties so that we can do something about them. With anger, the desire is to overcome, destroy or punish. With compassion, we are sensitive to suffering and have a corresponding desire to do be kind and understanding, and to somehow makes things better; to help- or, at least not to harm.
Donald Bright MA. LPC-S